Status and skin

Lagos seems to be warming up though the thunder and lightning come on periodically, darkening the sky pouring and disappearing almost as quickly. I like the downpours it reminds me of my home in the northwest and Burns Oregon.
We have managed to procure a driver and are looking for a car. He seems to be a very nice man and we were surprised and disappointed when he did not show up for work today. Then, he finally did show up. He called Andrew several times. It turns out that he had been hit on his Okada. Okada are little motor bikes that jet around here everywhere. They are terrifying to watch and I can say I will probably never ride one here. People do. I have seen a family of four, small children and all riding down the streets. He was pretty badly injured. Andrew took him to our school nurse who suggested he go to the hospital because of the swelling in his ear. Someone we work with who has been here a long time strongly suggested Andrew not accompany him to the hospital. He said it will make it way worse for him to get care. Our status and our skin. I wonder if he will actually go at all. What would definitely be an emergency room visit in the states could and does go untreated here. And of course we are slapped with our useless guilt at having been disappointed and somewhat responsible for him being in the wrong place at the wrong time. It is difficult to feel helpless when wanting to help someone and trying to grasp that what I consider help (taking someone to the hospital) would actually cause more conflict than good. The sun has come out now. Harper is resting and I sent Andrew outside to play softball but it looks as though a dark cloud may be coming in.